Showing posts with label Love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Love. Show all posts

Saturday, October 31, 2015

My Thoughts


Ye hath heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt
love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless 
them that curse you, do good to them that hate
you, and pray for them which despitefully use 
you, and persecute you;
That ye may be the children of your Father which
is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the
evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just
and on the unjust.

 I think this may be the most difficult thing asked of us in this life. If we could master the principle of loving all God's children, especially our enemy, I think the rest of our spiritual priorities would fall into place. 

As I mentioned in an earlier post. I have those who have acted against me as an enemy, and I have in turn acted as an enemy against others. Some of these transgressions are such that it would take a real miracle to resolve them in this life. I am not confident that it will happen in every case, although I do hope that our enmity can be resolved, if not in this life, in the one to come. 

In the meantime, I feel it is my duty to do whatever part I can. I have attempted to apologize for times where I have not acted well, though I know it is probably too little, too late in several instances. How I wish I had exercised an ounce of prevention in the first place.

In doing what I can for my abusers, I want to become the type of person that prays for them. I want to be like the sons of Mosiah, who could not stand the thought that any human soul should perish. (Mosiah 28:3

These are my thoughts on abuse that I wrote down as I am attempting to write my personal history:

Life is hard. Bad things happen. Many if not most of us are hurting inside in one way or another. It affects us. We are changed from it. Maybe we make choices we shouldn't and pass the pain down the line. Whatever the cause, whatever the reason, we hurt and are hurt by each other, and I believe it's more common than anyone would let on.

I've spent some time working through my pain, sometimes productively, and sometimes in a less than healthy way. It's changed and affected me. I only hope when this is over I can say it's been for the better and that it's made me stronger, more compassionate, and wiser.

As wrong as some of the things we people do to each other are, I worry more about the damage the offenders are doing to their own souls than anything else. I would hope they have not damaged themselves beyond repair, because I know they are loved by a just, but also compassionate, God and that he weeps for their loss. 

I hope that when this life is ended and we all sit down before the throne of God that we can understand each other in relation to our pain, our poor choices, and mistakes. I hope the anger and bitterness will melt away and that we can say, "We were just mortals," in the same way in this life we sometimes say "We were just children." I hope that we can chalk it up to experience and learning and move forward in our eternal progression-lifting each other up rather than tearing each other down.

And I do mean that. But even if my enemies never change, never wish to repent, I still would not want to have the sin of anger in my heart either. Anger is exhausting. Once it gets hold, it is so difficult to overcome, and even when I think I am making progress, I get knocked back down and have to try all over again. 

It's a very humbling journey to try to overcome the natural man. I am glad that I have a perfect brother who was willing to pray, and then to atone, for my sinful soul. 

Friday, October 30, 2015

Why I Chose This Verse


Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt
love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless
them that curse you, do good to them that hate
you, and pray for the which despitefully use
you, and persecute you;
That ye may be the children of your Father which
is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the
evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just
and on the unjust.

I chose this verse because I have some pain and hurt in my past. I've spent a long time being angry and unloving toward those who have abused and neglected me. Hatred is exhausting. It festers. It does nothing for growth and self-improvement. I would like to be done having those feelings toward others.

In return, I have also recognized times where I have acted as the enemy and have caused pain in other people's lives. The idea that they may be suffering from pain and hate for something I did is sad to me-not for my sake, but for how may have affected their quality of life. 

I am nowhere near mastering this admonition, but I work to remind myself of it often, especially when I fail.

Thursday, October 29, 2015

Cross Reference


Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt
love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless
them that curse you, do good to them that hate
you, and pray for them which despitefully use
you, and persecute you;
That ye may be the children of your Father which
is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the
evil and and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just
and on the unjust.

love:

neighbour:

Love:

enemies:

bless:
TG Retribution

curse:

good:

hate:
TG Hate

pray:
Job 42:10
Acts 7:55-60
TG Pray

persecute:
TG Persecution

may be:
GR may become
Mosiah 5:7

children:
TG Sons and Daughters of God

rain:
Job 2:10 
2 Nephi 2:11
Alma 60:13
D&C 5:22
D&C 29:39
D&C 122:5-9


"Healing the Tragic Scars of Abuse" by Elder Richard G. Scott

excerpt:

"Forgiveness

During prolonged recovery from massive surgery, a patient anticipates complete healing in patience, trusting in others’ care. He does not always understand the importance of the treatment prescribed, but his obedience speeds recovery. So it is with you struggling to heal the scars of abuse. Forgiveness, for example, can be hard to understand, even more difficult to give. Begin by withholding judgment. You don’t know what abusers may have suffered as victims when innocent. The way to repentance must be kept open for them. Leave the handling of aggressors to others. As you experience an easing of your own pain, full forgiveness will come more easily.
You cannot erase what has been done, but you can forgive. (see D&C 64:10.) Forgiveness heals terrible, tragic wounds, for it allows the love of God to purge your heart and mind of the poison of hate. It cleanses your consciousness of the desire for revenge. It makes place for the purifying, healing, restoring love of the Lord.
The Master counseled, “Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them who despitefully use you and persecute you. (3 Ne. 12:44; italics added.)
Bitterness and hatred are harmful. They produce much that is destructive. They postpone the relief and healing you yearn for. Through rationalization and self-pity, they can transform a victim into an abuser. Let God be the judge—you cannot do it as well as he can.
To be counseled to just forget abuse is not helpful. You need to understand the principles which will bring healing. I repeat, most often that comes through an understanding priesthood leader who has inspiration and the power of the priesthood to bless you."